Rogier:
When is peacemaking between others, or others and oneself, a drain of energy and a waste of time, and when is it applicable?
The Seer:
There could be so many variables that need to be consider in determining the correct answer, that there isn't a clear-cut rule to determine whether to extend one's peacemaking efforts. Consider the following:
- Most injurious attitudes from others towards oneself, stem from jealousy and a desire to diminish someone. Jealousy is a type of madness. Madness isn't based on logic and therefore cannot be understood nor argued away.
- The bothersome thoughts about someone's unreasonable dislike of another or oneself, or their refusal to embrace the mutually beneficial results of a peaceful and cooperative relationship, bother us because we can see clearer — something we hope they can be persuaded to do as well. But this is indicative of our desire for sameness; a desire to have uniformity in our tribe. We think that because we live from a much more peaceful outlook, that it would make them happier as well, but their judgmental aggression against another is what brings them satisfaction from their lower point of view. It is what makes them happy; what makes them feel empowered.
The more the object of their resentment tries to pacify them, the more aggressive they become. This is so that they can maintain their chosen stance of polarity.
The adversarial attitude of another towards us, cannot be argued away. Such an attitude is by nature neither reasonable, nor open to a change of perspective. It is determined to be justified, rather than being accurate. To prevent the occurrence of an energy drain, it is best to solve the situation within ourselves by determining what flawed perception we may harbor that is being indicated by this distorted mirror.
Thank you so much for this, sweet Almine. As usual, it is perfectly timed as I am too experiencing being opposed and psychically attacked daily. It really helps to know that it's ok to put down the need for peace making with another, and focus on peace within yourself, and what the mirrors might tell you. Such a blessing to have these insights❤
I am exploring… what is the difference in the feeling: " an accurately observing" and " an accurately inquiring". And I wonder how does the mirror adjusts to holding the distortion, like a posture, in order to reveal the flawed perception? It can least of all remain concealed from an observer.
Nicely put.
I am in the process of sorting out some controlling and manipulative behaviour in my environment. Stalking what is within me that is so controlling and manipulative…..
Thank You for this. I too am experiencing opposition from a loved One. My lesson from this is to stay centred and to not give my power away or allow it to diminish the unconditional love I feel for them. This is the Juggler/Clown playing out in my life…this makes me wonder if it's to do with living from 'principles of transformation'…where we have come from… There's clearly work to do here. I wonder what has been missed?
It certainly feels like madness to me..
Thank you Almine, again synchronicity I am seeing this play out in my family setting. It's strange to be in the observer role watching it all play out, watching the agendas of everyone involved. Feeling very free of it and recognising the deep place of peace I have entered in my life. I am eternally grateful for this ever expanding journey and your beautiful insights. Thank you, much love and grace xxx
This is so spot on Almine. I'm actually in a situation right now where I am being hated and I just want to have a dialogue and the other person has written me off. As you said it's not based on logic and my stance is to make peace which just drives the other person away.