Rogier:
Question (re this message). What is the most enlightened response to the malice and hostile acts of others against one?
The Seer:
Neutrality. If you gave the best in a relationship, but it turns on you, stand back and observe without resentment. The ill intent and judgement of others will bounce back to the sender. Although they may view it as your attacking them, it is a self-attack. Your conscience is clear.
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How neutral can neutral be? I responded to an email intended to be inflammatory with "OK" the other day. I wondered if adding the words please and thank you would have been polite but is politeness neutral? If someone is lavishing in the idea that they have power and control over others and their intent is to be harmful, they may see the words "thank you" and "please" as fawning, in my experiences.
So true. As I remain neutral and watch their reactions……
Thankyou for this Almine and Rogier
In power dynamics in a relationship. The one who cares the least has the most power. Strong desire and attachment to outcome can make someone your slave! I found that the people I'm best suited to be around are the ones that I have no attachment to whether or not they are in my life. Honestly, I don't know how to love another. I only know how to love myself.
I used to think this way, mostly because I ended up being hurt a lot. Then I realized that the relationships that I was in where I didn't care a lot – felt just as icky as the ones where I cared too much without balancing myself. I think the best relationships are the ones where you can care so deeply and pationately, but have just as much love for yourself and you're able to love the other person more unconditionally and if they happen to do something in a way that hurts, it's okay because you still have the comfort of that self love, and then its also easier for conflict resolution – because conflict resolution is extremely hard otherwise, its hard normally, but truly brings great gifts. If there is nothing to resolve and the relationship has come to an end, then its also easier to release in gratitude. Relationships are complicated but beautiful, the more balanced you are in the relationship, the more you'll be able to learn without it being "traumatic". In my opinion not caring was just as unbalanced as caring too much, and just as traumatic. Ofcourse this is all just an opinion of my experiences I've shared in case it helps even just knowing somebody else's experience ❤️❤️❤️. I just think you can love fully and pationately and strongly, and have just as much power if it's maintained in a healthy manner ❤️.
"The one great love is awareness. The one great love is an endangered species on this planet. It is not unconditional love, which the current fashion of the times invented for our pacification. It is not hugging someone till it hurts, or saying I love you over and over as if you are a robot. The one great love is awareness, and since very few people are aware . . . total love is in short supply."
Really appreciate this! Thank you.
Great.. we could apply this tactic to the corrupt elite and their government puppets as well. Thank you Almine and Rogier for this xx Joanne 🌺