I have been asked about the difficult time parents are having in helping their children find friends and partners with a decent character. The substance abuse and loose morals and subsequent sexually transmitted diseases, is only one of the challenges. In addition, the internet access sexual predators and pedophiles have to our young people is a challenge to monitor. The influence older teenagers have on the younger, more vulnerable children to get them to engage in indecent exposure, is very worrisome and hard for parents to control.
Once young adults become sexually active, STDs and the fake personas on internet dating sites criminal elements can hide behind, are again just the tip of the iceberg. The sexual patterns of behavior regarded by many as the norm, have become perverse. Once sadism and masochistic foreplay was a rare occurrence engaged in by those regarded as "low class". Now, it is mainstream; fueled by the low self-esteem body image issues have perpetrated.
The Lower, Middle and Upper Class
But there is another social metamorphoses that has made finding a suitable companion for your child more difficult. Society used to have a lower, middle and upper class. I would roughly define these groups as follows:
The result of unparented and neglected children that grow into adulthood without much of a moral compass.
This group has in general been spared exploitation and have been guided by responsible mentors through the passages of growing into adulthood. In turn they grow up with a sense of responsibility to their family and society and with a sense of self-respect.
This group has often been misunderstood by themselves and by others — leading to the arrogant abuse of privilege. But in general, this group has been prepared for leadership in their society, and has been exposed to the best thoughts of abstract thinkers and a rich cultural background. The result, assuming that they were also nurtured and loved, should be a well rounded and mature adult.
The Absent Middle Class
The social dilemma your children are facing is that we're losing the middle class. The perverse violence and pornography society is bombarded with, coupled with the prevalence and availability of drugs, has created a majority of base-minded and irresponsible citizenry of all ages. That leaves only the base and capstone of the societal pyramid. This base majority's value systems have become the norm; their perverse habits have dominated because of the vacuum left by the absent middle class. These are the ones from which your child has to choose a friend.
The Seer Almine
Soon the Seer will advise parents how to cope with the difficulties mentioned in today's post.