Unusual questions that the Seer answered in retreats during the past years:
I'm a behaviorist and a counselor. I've wondered why suicides are so prevalent, in my experience, in the age group of people in their thirties and late twenties. Can you explain please?
As you may know, Erickson the famous behaviorist, places those who are in their thirties in the seventh psycho-social stage of development. This stage that occurs in middle adulthood has the challenge of resolving the key conflict of generativity vs. stagnation.
People of this age group want to feel they've contributed something to the world, and so successfully navigating this conflict involves accomplishments like raising a family, succeeding at work, and volunteering in the community. During this stage of middle adulthood, people who aren't able to do this often feel disconnected from the rest of the world; a sense of isolation.
This seventh psycho-social stage is the beginning of a quest for meaningful living — feeling as though they're living a meaningful life that matters.
This quest is a futile one for those that have depth of contemplation, because of our inability to judge what is meaningful from our limited vantage point of the complexity of life, such a quest is doomed to failure. The ultimate insight is that all our actions can either be seen as equally important or equally unimportant. The seeker of such an answer must therefore realize that there is no meaning to life — the loss of the illusion that life can be meaningful, can trigger an existential crises unless it is replaced by the realization that it is the quality of the journey that we are privileged explorers of, and that the search for meaning is but an attempt to pacify reason's addiction to know.
Lynette Ruest says
As always Almine's answers are brilliant and leads us to ever new paths of joy.
In case of wondering, the strange word in the last sentence is supposed to be, "pacify" rather than "pacific".
Sue B says
So – it is not the Meaning of Life, but meaningful living, that is the way forward? great answer … would have saved me years of heartache as a teenager, had I shifted my focus – but then, the heartache was a glorious lesson… LPGST
Rogier it's autocorrected "pacify reason" to pacific.
Also the News updated is not showing Headings pas Feb 14/21.
I have to go to Almine's diary page to get the latest OO's post from there.
When I refresh this page, it just keeps taking me back to FEB 15TH post.
Well….once they admit that they have to go beyond "reason and the addiction to know", the reason for living can be sorted out.