The petty tyrants in one's life – those who scheme and plot for ever greater control – are only there because we allow them to indulge their self-importance in order to preserve the peace. The obsessive desire for peace in the environment is the result of not realizing that the only dependable peace is the inner peace of a silent mind.
The Seer
Rogier:
This principle applies on a societal scale as well, right?
The Seer:
Yes.
Rogier:
What causes someone to become a petty tyrant?
The Seer:
A feeling of helplessness and/or someone else that is submissive or passive when faced with tyranny. The elderly or infirm and children often fall into this category.
Four Relationship Types that Ensnare
From: The Bridge of No Time
The Clown
The traditions of the Norse people had Loki as the trickster. In Native American traditions he is called Hay-ho-ka, the sacred clown. In the tarot, it is the jester. The game of this personality type has the subtle agenda to keep you off balance and thus keep them in control. They are like a loose cannon – you never know where you will be embarrassed or shocked or defensive next. They pride themselves in their "honesty" and their "spontaneity", but their indiscriminate, undisciplined speech is designed to attract attention through startling us.
Shock and surprise causes a loss of power and energy. The Earth's cataclysms have almost always resulted in a fall of consciousness, since consciousness requires energy and an accumulation of personal power to sustain it.
People with this personality profile suck the energy up by being the center of your attention as you release resources by being taken by surprise.
The Juggler
The dynamics are the same as for the clown in that as you focus on their games, your surprise and shock release resources they benefit from. They are the ones who imbalance you through unpredictable mood swings and rages.
There is little rationale for the sudden outbursts and the roller-coaster ride of their emotions. This instability makes it impossible to see the tantrums or rages coming, thus we are taken by surprise and drained by the experience.
The shock becomes all the more devastating because their need to keep you from abandoning them due to their rages, drives them into being particularly caring and giving in between the periods of abusiveness. We believe the latter to be their 'real' self and the rages something they can overcome. Because we open up to them during their loving, ingratiating periods, the rage causes an even greater shock, allowing them to suck up even more power and energy.
Neither part of their conduct is 'real' in that they do not represent who they could be if they lived authentically from their core, since both parts are based on controlling your responses to them.
People who are over-polarized into the masculine or feminine, are particularly prone to this unstable behavior because they are not supported by a firm foundation; their own inner feminine or masculine components. They fluctuate between self-importance and self-pity, whereas the clown has mostly self-importance, the thief operates from self-pity.
The Thief
The thief is subversive and never openly engages you. They come across as helpful, friendly and caring. They have their own way of getting your attention so that they can be empowered. They are masters at benefitting from the law that we empower what we focus on. The range of behavior with this and the other personalities varies widely from the subtle to the more obvious and overt: at the subtle end is the ignorance and helplessness act. You explain something simple and even though they understand, multiple questions follow to hook your attention. If you do not pay your 'dues' by engaging in their game, it is done incorrectly because you, "did not explain it properly". This personality type wants to stay connected with you at any cost; after all they have deliberately chosen you for your high ability to be their power source. They forget an item in your car or house so that you have to mail or bring it to them – more attention extracted from you.
The slightly more aggressive thief will provide you with competent assistance. In fact they will create within you, a deliberate dependency on them by doing more and more for you. Because they are rooted in self-pity, they do not feel lovable and instead settle for being needed. Many healers and psychics fit in this category. They are invigorated by the passion and fullness of another's life.
The fact that they have so little (power, success, recognition, money, popularity, etc.) and you have so much, eventually causes behind-your-back destructiveness. They talk about you to others that are eager to hear, or put you in an unfavorable light, creating an even larger number of eager ears. They eventually undermine your business, reputation and finances.
The personality of the thief is based on the very first stage of social evolution, the dependency of the infant or child. This develops due to insufficient parenting. The juggler often experiences alcoholic or fighting parents. They feel uncomfortable in situations without the high tension of conflict, having become addicted to stress. They create stress and then feel angry that they are stressed. They also use stress as an excuse for their anger. They are co-dependent and follow its high tension journey of stress that repeats over and over again:
- I love and support you.
- Because of how much I give, I am privileged so I can control
you. - If you don't meet my expectations, I am furious.
The clown is independent. Its spinning and rolling tube-torus is exuding a centrifugal force that pushes anything that is trying to connect with it away. If one tries to interact from the heart in an authentic way, they throw up a wall with an inappropriate response that sends you reeling.
The integrated person acts from interdependency – the low tension, high productivity stage in which people come together based on a common vision, instead of needs based on deficiencies. This stage supports individual expression and honors voluntary agreements of mutual contribution with the understanding that if it no longer makes someone's heart sing to be part of it, they are joyfully released from participating. This relationship is based on voluntary roles, rather than imprisoning dependencies.
The Trout
The trout swims upstream. If everyone is gathered together to create a holy ceremony, the trout will disrupt it. They argue when there is agreement and attract attention by swimming against the intent of the group.
The trout is not a team player and in singling themselves out, they get the attention of the many. We empower what we focus on. This becomes an addictive habit by the trout, in that there is always a 'fix' of energy and resources coming his or her way that reinforces their tendency to do antisocial and disruptive things.
Common vision and individual expression can be tricky. For example, you may have two people who have the same common vision, but who want to go about achieving it completely differently. For example, you may have a mother and a father who have a child with the common vision of wanting the best for the child. But they may differ completely on the best way to go about it. It's very hard to have a company with five CEOs (cooks in the kitchen) with a common vision, but who all want to go about achieving it differently. It's my experience that group dynamics are always led, usually covertly, though this is not always obvious. It's usually the female who runs the family with her subtleties and nuances. In my experience, what's been missing in the group dynamics that I've been a part of have been leadership. Not everyone wants to be a leader. Because inevitably that means you're going to have to make hard decisions which means you won't be liked. Which is probably why for centuries the female has covertly ruled from the shadows. What's more in order for there to be a leader? There has to be followers which I've never seen among masters.
The key to removing a petty tyrant from your life lies in the awareness that petty tyrants take themselves with a deadly seriousness; while a warrior does not. Without wishing a petty tyrant ill will or harm a warrior is aware that in the midst of their own impeccability the inherent impotence in a petty tyrant will be their own undoing.
Thank you for this great reminder!!
Just so Incredible🌄 thank you Beloved Almine AND Dearest Rogier.
This information is invaluable 🌈
My deepest gratitude to Beloved Almine and Rogier for this valuable information. 🌹❤️